My friend Dee came to see me couple of nights ago.

Dee and I have been good friends for quite a long time. We've gone through a lot together. Our friendship is the kind of friendship where no matter how long we haven't see each other, in the end when any one of us were in trouble we'd always find solace in one another. And it was always easy to pick up where we left, even after such long time

Anyway, Dee wasn't really in big trouble. Only thing is she needed to talk to someone coz she's broken hearted. The man she has crush on (i have a hunch that she actually loves him) married another woman. Hmmm... i'm no expert in this thing because it never happens to me that way. However, i could just imagine how shattered my heart would be if the man i love married another woman.

So given the circumstances, i couldn't do or say much on the subject. Furthermroe, I didn't want to patronize her by giving konon-kononnya rational advices, scolding her and telling her not to cry because somehow i know that's not what she wanted from me. What she wanted and needed was someone who'll listen to her and not judging her by how she feels and acts. So i let her do what she wanted to. I listened and smiled. And nodded...

After listening to all she had to say, my only regret is that people keep on giving her not-so-clever advises. Some tell her not to cry when it's the only thing she's capable of doing to let out her frustration. Even worse, some of these people told her that she's not to worry, they're pretty sure that he'll come back to her one day, maybe in 1 year, maybe 2, who knows- they say.

I totally disagree with these people. My only advise to her that night is after she's done crying, try to live the moment. Don't dwell on the future too much coz you do not know what the future has in store for you. He might or might not comes back to you. But that's not the issue. The thing is to learn to accept things that life dish out for you. Surely God knows what's best for you. You might suffer now, but in the long run it could be the BEST thing that ever happened to you.

The long talk I had with Dee that night got me around thinking...

Apa sebenarnya yang kita maksudkan dengan "a twist of fate"? When we say, takdir selalu tak memihak pada kita...apa maksudnya tu? Takdir kah yang buat kita jadi jahat, sedih dan sebagainya? Or is it our own doing?

Kita selalu dengar orang cakap yang takdir kita dah termaktub sejak azali. Dan sesetengah orang menggunakan alasan ini untuk tidak melakukan yang terbaik dalam hidup mereka. "Aku dah memang ditakdirkan jadi jahat, so buat macam mana pun aku tetap jahat".

Tapi pernah tak kita berfikir, dimanakah keadilan Tuhan itu kalau Tuhan menetapkan seseorang itu jahat dan masuk neraka, manakala seorang lagi itu baik dan akan masuk syurga. Mana keadilan Tuhan yang selalu kita sebut-sebut tu?Kita kata Tuhan tu Maha Adil, tapi adilkah kalau Tuhan buat macam tu?

Di sinilah kita sebenarnya salah. I had a very interesting discussion with some religious people about this thing long time ago. And it really opened my eyes, mind and soul into seeing the real justice of Allah.

Perkara-perkara yang termaktub sejak azali di Lauh Mahfuz tu sebenarnya bukan lah ditetapkan oleh Tuhan. Kita sebenarnya yang bertanggungjawab dalam memikir serta melakukan setiap tindakan yang kita ambil. It's us who decides what and who we want to be. Cumanya, Tuhan tahu apa yang kita akan buat even before He created us. Dia kan Maha Mengetahui.

Contohnya, si A ingin mencuri di satu kedai tapi setelah sampai di situ, dia tiba-tiba berubah fikiran. Tiba-tiba dia terfikirkan siksaan dan azab yang akan ditanggungnya sekiranya dia melakukan perbuatan tersebut. Jadi, Tuhan kah yang tetapkan hati dia agar tidak mencuri, ataupun itu adalah keputusan yang diambilnya sendiri?

Sama lah situasinya macam Rasulullah (pbuh). Kita selalu cakap "bolehla.. he's the Prophet, God MADE him the Prophet so dia ada keistimewaan. Kita mana mampu nak buat camtu" Sebenarnya, kenapa Rasullullah telah dipilih sebagai Rasulullah? Sebab..he MADE the effort to be Rasullullah. Takdak sorang manusia lain pun di dunia ni yang telah berusaha sebaik beliau untuk mengenali dan mencintai Allah dan agamanya. He's the best because he wanted to be the best. And he took the effort to be the best, made all the effort required to be the CHAMPION - to be Rasulullah. Dan akhirnya Allah telah memilih beliau untuk menjadi kekasihnya.

Mungkin ada yang akan cakap " kalau camtu camana before Nabi Muhammad was born pun Allah dah cakap that he's going to be Rasullullah sedangkan beliau belum buat apa2 effort pun untuk melayakkan diri beliau sebagai Rasullullah. Well, Allah kan All-Knowing. Dia dah tahu setiap benda, even tiny weeny lil things yang akan berlaku. Dia tahu apa keputusan yang akan kita ambil, Dia tahu sekiranya kita akan berubah fikiran atau tidak. He knows EVERYTHING there is to know about us, about everything.

Jadi, sebenarnya..kita perlu berusaha untuk menjadi yang terbaik. Allah tahu, tapi kita tak tahu what lies in future for us. Jadi kita masih harus berusaha untuk mencapai yang terbaik. Besides that...kita tak sepatutnya menyalahkan tadir. Sebab takdir itu adalah hasil dari perbuatan kita sendiri.

So to Dee and my other friends, jom la kita cuba lakukan yang terbaik. Takdir jangan disalahkan, sebaliknya cuba tengok setiap sesuatu yang buruk tu dari the positive side. How can we turn the bad things that happen to us into something good. I know,kita mesti mampu buat if we try hard enough because, well... God loves us all doesn't He??

And Dee, I love you my buddy...so gambate!!! :-)